Welcome back to me. It’s been a while since I’ve shared my thoughts with you.I’ve missed you. I miss sharing the lessons, the inspiration, and the guidance that I’ve received from over 20+ years in medicine.

And I’m happy to say it’s a journey that overlaps with life.

Where have I been? Well, life got in the way and I had to go back to the basics and deepen my understanding and connection to my self and my Source to easily navigate the curves and the bumps in the road.

I’m defining this leg of the journey as successful.

I used the same strategies that I teach and coach my clients (and will share with you shortly) to move through the tears that came with the diagnosis and poor prognosis of a relative who is so very dear to my heart. I used these steps to observe myself and be gentle with myself as I shifted from the knowledgeable doctor, advocating for palliative care services in a country whose system I am unfamiliar, into the woman who is blessed to have a true, deep and meaningful friendship with an elder in my family and wanting more time to sit by his side as he shares his wisdom and listen as he shares his keys to a successful life.

  1. I heard him say that he had 2 jobs during his lifetime, both which he loved. There is wisdom in that.
  2. I heard him share how he invested in himself taking classes to advance his skill set in sewing and cooking, hobbies that he thoroughly enjoyed and allowed him to share these gifts with family and friends.
  3. I heard him talk about what it takes to build meaningful relationships. There are always lessons there.

These are just a few of the gems that I’m holding dear to my heart and working on integrating into my life as I move into the next level of my life and career. You see I am not just about acquiring new information. I implement it as soon as possible.

In the midst of doing my own inner work for outer results, I created this template Define It To Find It: 5 Steps To Physician Well-being just for you.

As doctors we know there are predictable outcomes for certain diagnosis. We give patients information about their conditions all the time. But we are also the loved ones, the relatives and the friends of someone who receives the diagnosis of a terminal condition. That’s when we have to learn to dance between who we are behind the white coat and stethoscope and who we are when we take the coat off and put the stethoscope down. That’s when it can come crashing down around you or you can connect the person with the physician for a new level of self-awareness and understanding.

I can honestly say that on this journey I did a bit of both. At first the diagnosis of my relative hit my like a ton of bricks. I wanted more time. I was sure we had more time as a family. Slowly I began to realize that wishing for more time kept me focused on the end. I wasn’t being in the present moment appreciating the time that I have today.

I changed my focus. I started to ask different questions, the questions that would get me closer to what I wanted – meaningful time with him. That’s when I received just that.

When we can define what we want and shift our focus towards whatever it is, that’s when it shows up. Yes, it can happen even in the midst of the most difficult times in life.

So Doctor, the lesson I want to share is when you are in the midst of some stress, struggle, or dis-ease in your medical career or life, that’s the exact right time to make an appointment with yourself to define what you do want. Click here download Define It To Find It: 5 Steps To Physician Well-being.